How I lost myself during and found myself after marriage

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During our 15 years together, my ex controlled the majority of my thoughts and dominated my consciousness.

I didn’t fully realize the extent of his “mind control” until I got away from him. The early stages of our relationship were exciting and mostly occupied by thoughts of the next step — from engagement to a wedding to having kids. The next decade or so my thoughts were occupied by miscarriages, pregnancies, births, postpartum depression, and raising small children.

It wasn’t until after I went back to work that I realized…


The National Legalization of Marijuana is Long Overdue

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Marijuana has been an illegal substance in the United States for many decades. The possession or sale of marijuana became illegal with the passage of The Marihuana Tax Act of 1937. The act was declared constitutional in later years, but marijuana was officially outlawed for any use in 1970 with the passage of the Controlled Substances Act. Nowadays, at least several million Americans use marijuana, and the stigma behind its usage has quickly been dissipating in recent years.

The three most popular strains of marijuana are cannabis indica (which has sedating effects), cannabis sativa (which has uplifting effects), and hybrid…


Tips for Avoiding Delays and Closing Faster

Mortgage interest rates fluctuate frequently, and when they are low people often jump at the chance to refinance their current rate or to buy a home. Many people become frustrated by the length and complexity of the loan process, which involves submitting documents, playing the waiting game, being asked for more documents, and waiting some more. Saving money can be worth the time and effort put in to receive a low rate on a mortgage, but remember that time and effort will be involved. The good news is that there are ways you can help speed things up and make…


Why Socialization is Important and How Isolation Can Harm Us

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With vaccines rolling out across the country in large numbers, and many people posting pictures of their bandage-covered bare arms while proudly holding up their Vaccination Record Cards, it is easy to believe that things are returning to normal — and they are, slowly. Those who are vaccinated and now feel more comfortable venturing back out into the world are posting pictures all over social media of themselves out and about with their loved ones with beaming smiles, and you can visibly see the joy on their faces. …


How to Slow Down and Just Be

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I have not had much rest in the past decade, or even the past two decades (I actually cannot really remember when I last felt fully rested). I have three children, who are now 12, 8, and 8 (yes, twins are harder than singletons) and I work a full-time job in mortgage. My immediate family is out of town, and I am not one to ever ask for help. Ever.

Nothing I do ever feels like it is enough and it is tough to keep up. Despite all of the responsibilities and tasks…


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Tears Help Heal the Soul

When we truly want to grow and become better people, we may find and utilize healthy ways to heal and grow, including therapy and self-care. They are good routes to take, but many people avoid them, as with them often comes pain. It can be easier to remain stagnant and follow pathways full of numbing agents, whether our vice of choice is alcohol, drugs, food, sex, etc. While stumbling down those pathways in a foggy haze, however, we forget how to feel. We become a shell. …


Life’s Joys Are Found in Adventure

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Comfort. It’s one of the biggest driving forces behind human motivation, and it’s mostly accepted by society as an acceptable motivator. People will go to great lengths — even harmful ones — in order to feel comfortable. If something or someone makes a person feel the slightest hint of discomfort, that person will likely shut themself off to or reject the cause of his or her discomfort. …


The Importance of Selflessness

Compassion, noun: sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others.

Compassion is severely lacking in our society. You see the shortages everywhere — from online bullies to a general lack of courtesy to the purely selfish “me” mentality that seems to permeate multiple aspects of our everyday lives. We all must realize that our individual points of view are not only NOT the ONLY points of view in existence, but are one of the BILLIONS of points of view in existence.

Rather than ridicule or deny the pain of others, we should be…


Art improves our well-being and keeps us connected

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“All art is immortal. For emotion for the sake of emotion is the aim of art, and emotion for the sake of action is the aim of life.” — Oscar Wilde

Art is one of the oldest and most vital forms of human expression. From cave paintings to technology-based media, art has existed in many forms and continues to evolve along with humanity. It is historically a part of every culture and a defining characteristic of the human species. Although it is not essential to survival, its impact is timeless. …

Tina Klugman

Hi! I am Tina Klugman, a freelance writer, editor and mom of three. You can contact me at tinaaklugman (at) gmail dot com.

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